Existing With Pain

Pain is a fact of life: unless all of the nerve endings in your body are dead, you will feel pain at one point or another. For some unfortunate souls, however, pain is not a fleeting problem, but something they live with at all times. Such discomfort can be quite debilitating, preventing some from being able to work or even enjoy basic pleasures.

Is pain ruling your life to the point where you find it difficult to function? The following suggestions won’t get rid of pain, but can help you better manage this unfortunate time in your life.

Battle Depression

When you suffer from depression, it can be very tempting to just succumb and stop fighting it. Chronic pain often leads to depression, but this is not something you should just accept. While trying to find a cure or balance for your discomfort, work with a therapist to help you regain mental well-being. Feeling happy and optimistic can be an excellent ally in the fight against chronic pain. There are also support groups for people who are in a similar situation. These are great places to make new friends, and share tips and encouragement.

Be Open to Help and New Ideas

As mentioned above, prolonged discomfort can cause people to retreat from the world and otherwise close down. However, it is important to remain open to friends and family, as well as medical practitioners and their new ideas for treatment. If help is being offered, accept it.

Accept That There Will Be Bad Days

Even the happiest people have bad days, so accept there will be times when you feel even more uncomfortable than usual. Keep in mind that not everyday will be this bad, and it will pass eventually.

Advocate for Yourself

Sometimes there can be long waiting times for treatment or acceptance into groups. The best way to achieve positive results is to make some noise; let them know you are out there and seek results. The old adage “the squeaky wheel gets the grease” is just as relevant now as when your grandmother used to say it.

Hate Giving Speeches? These Tips Can Help

On the average person’s scale of Likes and Dislikes, giving a speech ranks somewhere down with going to the dentist and cleaning of the cat litter box. Very few people feel comfortable standing in front of a group of others giving a speech. It is just something that lands well outside many individuals’ comfort zones.

Fortunately, like most things in life, you can learn to be more at ease with the idea of giving a speech. Here are two steps that you can try that will help to overcome your Glossophobia (fear of public speaking):

Do your homework

Some people can stand in front of a crowd and just wing it, but that is not the case for the majority of us. In fact, one of the biggest fears for most is standing in front of an audience and not knowing what to say. You can avoid that scenario by learning your speech backwards and forwards. Also know the subject well enough to answer any questions that might come up at the end.

Pretend you are speaking to an empty room

Would you be as nervous about giving a speech if there was no one in the room? When the time comes to give your talk, imagine exactly that scenario. However, that does not mean you can stand completely still and stare off into space. It is important to still make eye contact every once in a while, but beyond that, you do not need to acknowledge the presence of anyone else until you are finished.

If you are standing on a stage under a spotlight, chances are that you will not even be able to see the audience anyway. That can be a godsend for some people, but it is still important to be able to learn the art of giving a speech when others are in plain view. Keep practicing!

Having Trouble Relaxing?

Many of us spend so much of our time nowadays running around at full steam, multitasking and trying to get as much done as possible every day of the week. While that can be physically and mentally exhausting, sometimes we can still have trouble winding down. How often have you come home from a tough day at work only to find your home in disarray and your attention needed in four different places at once?

It’s good to be productive, but not getting proper relaxation can he hard on both mind and body. It can also leave you more likely to develop serious health risks, like heart attack and stroke.

Here are some suggestions that can help you to slow down when needed:

Turn Off the Electronics

Do not look at your phone, computer, television, or anything else that has a screen at least one hour before bed. This simple act will do wonders in helping to calm you and get you in the right frame of mind for sleeping.

Enjoy Nature

Get away from the hustle and bustle of your daily life and plan a trip to a remote area. Go hiking, swimming, fishing, or any other activity that takes you away from large masses of people and other distractions. And leave your phone off as much as possible while you do it.

Take Deep Breathes

Find a quiet spot where you won’t be disturbed for a few minutes and take some deep breathes. Closing your eyes while doing so can also help to bring down your blood pressure a few notches.

Enjoy Your Hobbies

Do you like to knit? Watch movies? Take long walks? Do puzzles? Whatever you enjoy doing, make sure to schedule some time to engage in those activities that bring you enjoyment. These can go a long way in keeping one grounded.

How to Talk to Your Teens

People joke about the generation gap, but it does exist and can cause considerable differences in outlook and common ground. Think back to when you were young; how often did you seriously consider what your parents said to you? I’m guessing you probably found them to be tiresome contrarians who did not understand what it was really like for someone your age.

I’m guessing your teens also feel the same way about you. Whether it is true or not, that sort of disconnect can really compromise a parent/teen relationship. Want to try and reconnect on a meaningful level with your children? Try these three suggestions.

Talk, don’t lecture

One thing that made me automatically want to defy an adult was being subjected to a lecture. In other words, talk to your child, not at them. Be sincere and honest when expressing your concerns. Listen to what they have to say in response and try to understand where they’re coming from. Yes, the parent is ultimately the one in charge, but you can also have a parent-child relationship based on honesty and open communication.

Get right to the point

This is directly connected to the one above. Understand where your teen is coming from and express your concerns, but don’t ramble. A five minute opener on how “this sort of thing was never done in my day” is meaningless to a child and, in their eyes, just makes you seem clueless and out of touch.

Remain a parent

Some parents state that they get along well with their kids because they’re basically friends. That dynamic may work well in some families, but it can also provide children with too much freedom to do what they want. There is a healthy middle ground between being an overbearing authoritarian and a friend who never passes any kind of judgment; through talking to your children, you can find that proper balance.

Need Help Dealing With Depression? Try Therapy

Depression can be very difficult to endure. I won’t go into detail, but a couple members of the spicyrumours.com team have struggled with chronic depression and have agreed to share some insights for this post.

The main message they want to convey is hope. No matter how bleak things may seem, you should never give up. There is always another avenue you can take; it just hasn’t presented itself yet. In order to find that new direction, the best course of action is therapy.

Finding a therapist can seem daunting. It is often quite expensive or, if you are trying to seek help through an agency like CMHA, you might face a long wait.

One of the main things to remember on your journey is to keep trying until you find a therapist who feels right for you. Just because a therapist has certain qualifications, that doesn’t necessarily mean that they are the right fit for you.

You can test drive a therapist just like you would a car. Try a session or two and see how comfortable you feel. Don’t worry about moving on to someone else; therapists are professionals and know that not everyone will wish to see them. This is all about you and your needs.

Therapy only really works if you are in an atmosphere and with a therapist who allows you to feel open and relaxed. The only way for them to help you is to know the situation(s) in detail. That allows the therapist to then recommend the proper course of action. Without all of the required knowledge, it becomes a guessing game and that can lead you down roads that ultimately go not help.

Also, don’t be afraid to ask questions! You need to know your therapist and their approach. That knowledge will help you decide whether you have found the person that could help to change your life.

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